In recent posts I’ve been talking a lot about community. Hold on, because, there are more to come.
Whether we realize it yet, we are all a part of community. In the workplace, family (immediate and extended), church, non-profit events/groups and online communities, which speak to your personal place or passion at present. With community, comes hurt. How do we deal with feelings of hurt or disappointment?
Some years ago my husband and I were called to an area to assist a Pastor we had known for a number of years. It so happened that we had been Home Missionaries there before – for one and a half years – before I fell gravely ill. Moving with the direction of the Lord and leadership, we moved back to our home, so I could be closer to family.
When called back to the area, there were some in our (church) “community” that disagreed with God’s calling. I had been healed by the hand of God, thus the ability to complete what God had originally called us to do – the ending being different from the beginning. Still building a work for the Kingdom of God, but in a different way.
We left the Home Missions church in good order, just short notice. This left us wondering why other ministers (not parishioners), were indifferent toward us. We were uncomfortable at every district and ministry function. The indifference shocked us, and hurt us deeply. Our Pastor, to whom we were assisting, continued encouraging us. He knew the decision was God’s will.
Finally, we decided to dedicate “specific” prayer and fasting times, asking God to bless our fellow laborers and show us how we could change to make the situation better.
Entering into our third year, a turnaround occurred. One of the prominent pastors of the district began to acknowledge us openly and show his favor toward us. It was amazing how it only took one to get others on board. We are all fragile and find trusting hard. After all, they were all hurt too when we left the first time. Even though we think our reasons are perfect, and everyone should accept them, it’s rarely the way it goes. God is amazing with His plans – for good and not evil for each of us. We can all be vulnerable and cave in to peer pressure.
Overcoming hurts in community, whether on-or-off line, requires humility and forgiveness by both sides. There is freedom in forgiveness. Moreover, it requires stamina and resolve to stay the course. Your community is worth it – just hold on.
God’s Word relates that our transgressions, once forgiven, are no longer remembered. He puts them as far as the east is to the west. In other words they are non-existent.
Have you had trouble with forgiveness? How have you been hurt by community? Please share your story in the comments section.
see you around the path ~ Debra
Posted by: Debra / Category: Christianity